Settling Oregon Child Custody and Parenting Plan Disputes Swiftly

Often, one of the most difficult things about divorce is determining which parent will get custody of the children and the parenting time schedule for the non-custodial parent. Some divorces devolve into bitter disputes, using child custody as a means for parents to extract revenge on one another. However, many parents realize the damage that feuding parents can have on children and see the value in resolving child custody matters quickly. Oregon parents can take the following steps to minimize conflict regarding child custody matters and reach an agreement rapidly.

Focus on the Child

One of the most helpful things parents can do when negotiating child custody and parenting time schedules is to remember that the best interests of the child are paramount. If both parents remind themselves that custody arrangements are not about what they would prefer or what is easier for them, but rather revolve around what is most beneficial for the child, then it will encourage more of a cooperative spirit. Both parents should work together to meet the child's needs.

Get Real

Parents who understand that they will need to reasonably compromise will have an easier time reaching an agreement. These parents realize that they cannot be all things to their children and that it is important for their children to maintain relationships with both parents. They also understand that they will have to adjust to their children being away from one parent and with the other parent on a frequent basis.

Parents who are reasonable and realistic in their suggestions for custody arrangements will speed the negotiation process. Trying to see things from the other parent's perspective is often helpful in assessing whether a request is fair. If one parent has clearly been the primary caretaker of the children and the children have been doing well, then generally the other parent should not waste the time and money involved in a custody dispute.

See the Big Picture

Parents who keep the focus on the most substantial matters regarding the parenting plan will find they can reach agreements more easily. Parents who get bogged down in quarrels over minute details will protract the process. Parents who agree to leave some flexibility in the custody arrangements, so that they can adapt with the child's needs as he or she grows, will find they are more successful in reaching a resolution to parenting plan matters and correspondingly the children will benefit.

Parenting plan issues are often emotionally-charged. Seeking the advice of an adept family law attorney when facing custody or parenting plan issues can be beneficial in helping parents to create arrangements that are most beneficial for their children.