Many marriages come to an end due to communication issues. While communication is much different after divorce, it can also be the source of strife for exes who must stay in touch due to child-rearing and other matters.
Accordingly, you must learn how to communicate with your ex in a civil and reasonable manner. Doing so can spare you lots of headaches and keep the peace within your family. Here are a few tips to help speak your mind successfully.
Keep exchanges brief
When communicating with your former spouse, short and to the point is the best course of action. Stick to the essential topics, such as matters involving your children. When possible, use text or email to exchange information. Doing so can limit conflict, but it can also allow you to retain information in the event an issue ever arises.
Try to remain friendly
While you and your ex do not need to be great friends, exchanges should remain civil and friendly. Treat the person like you would a co-worker, meaning with a professional demeanor devoid of big emotions. If your former spouse attempts to draw you into an argument, do not take the bait. Stick to the facts and politely end the exchange if tempers begin to flare.
Conduct yourself firmly but fairly
When it comes to boundaries, you must remain firm. This is especially true when it comes to items within your parenting plan, which both you and your ex must follow. For instance, if your ex-spouse constantly asks you to change arrangements regarding visitation, set firm boundaries to stay on track.
You can also address the matter in court if parenting plan violations are a frequent occurrence. You may receive a new parenting plan, or the court can take steps to enforce the one currently in place.